When deciding on an article to write I have always been advised: “write what you know”. One uncomfortable thing never fails to come to mind is; Heartbreak.
Heartbreak like many things is a dish best served cold. The ones that leave you in bed, overthinking and an image close to that of Bridget Jones are the ones you learn the most from.
My personal heartbreak experience is that of something that gives you a greater appreciation for every classic scene in a rom-com. Sweet as a button at the ripe old age of 19 I was not given a rose on the final night of my relationship, poetically the gem that was once mine ended our four year high school romance on the steps of our favourite night club. Ironically, doing so on my ‘girls night’ which he had insisted on crashing, hopefully you’re starting to understand the type of person I was swooning over.
The long uber ride home was one of a ‘come to Jesus’ moment, I sat there with the lyrics of ‘big girls don’t cry’ playing in my head looking out the windows as the first of many tears rolled down my cheek, all the while I assured myself things would be okay.
The following weeks dragged on and every clock seemed to be playing tricks on me with time feeling like it stood still. I looked at my Mum my eyes now unremittingly glassy and asked when it would end? Hold on to your seatbelts because this answer held true. “ This is all temporary, this feeling, it’ll pass; but only with time.” With each passing day I began to feel a little better and while keeping myself busy I began to form my own identity.
I like to believe the person I am now is stronger than I once was, the person that did Bridget proud on the couch crying for the month is also one that no longer feels the need for ‘no man’. I recall that night calling my best friend and saying through tears “I can’t wait for in a year’s time when we are laughing about this.”
Fast forward one year ahead and I have a relationship and best friend my family approves of, treats me like gold and is an addition rather than a necessity. Exactly what is needed, he may be perfect now or forever you never know in this life but for right now it feels that frog may have just brought me my prince.
It’s easy to read and see others that have been through it and believe they have no idea your pain but if we’re being honest, we are all the heartbreak kid and that’s why they invented girl power.