My truth – Talking about my eating disorder

Hey Lovers,

Today I want to be honest with you. 

I struggle, I have and in a small way always will struggle with an eating disorder. 

When I was 16 years old, a really popular guy asked me out, and I said no. He then whispered something to a friend who looked at me and laughed. I didn’t know what he said, but as a defence responded with “I heard that”. As I was leaving school a girl stopped me in front of the whole school, she yelled “he says sorry for calling you a fat c… !” I was horrified, embarrassed and within seconds my life changed.

That one sentence changed my life, I never thought someone could impact me in the way it did. I’m pretty strong. I don’t take any crap, but some how this struck me at the heart of my being.

From that day onwards, I instantly stopped eating. I would allow myself 2 nibbles of a snack bar a day. This meaning I had to be very strategic as to when I would have them. I only did this to stop my stomach rowling in class, I also drank a ridiculous amount of water in an attempt to keep myself full.

Dinner time was the worst time of the day, I’d dread the thought of having to sit with my family, I could feel them watching me and tracking how much I ate.

I started throwing out things from the cupboard when I got to school as I knew my mum was tracking all foods. I was so calculated I could have worked for the FBI. I knew what they were thinking, I could even see them count how many peas I ate. It was awful. I made my mum cry every day. nothing is worse than knowing you’re the reason someone is hurting so badly, but being able to stop yourself.

The following year showed a drastic change in my appearance, I lost 30kg and went on a full rampage anytime someone brought up my lack of eating. I didn’t eat recess or lunch once in my 3 years at my senior high school. Even my friends can recall never seeing me eat. My secret highlight of graduating high school was knowing no one would know what I was eating in a day.

I couldn’t stay awake, I couldn’t remember things. I started to realise something was really wrong. I went to the doctor and although he asked if my eating habits had changed, I continued to lie. I was diagnosed with hypothyroidism- I was a staggering 40 years under the average age of diagnosis. It was brought on by my lack of eating. This condition is permanent, I’ll have it for the rest of my life.

My ex actually was the one who stopped me. He let me down and was so toxic in many ways, but actually saved me on this important one. I guess I’ll always be grateful for that.

He sat me down one day and said to me; “I love you more than life itself but won’t watch you waste yours. You need to get better or I’ll have to leave, I can’t watch the person I love disappear”

Although we didn’t work out (and for the best!!) I will always appreciate that. 

I am in no way okay, over it, and truthfully I think about my weight at all hours of the day, every day.  But I eat. I eat every meal and eat junk food too. I push it to the back of my mind most times and by the way I am a very normal size.

I guess my message is, don’t let anyone have an effect on you through words. Words mean nothing unless you give them the power to. I now have a life long condition that started prematurely, purely because of the words of some random guy in high school. A guy who was mad because I rejected him.

Be kind to yourself and one another 

All my love,

Aesthetically Basic – A millennial’s guide to life 


How to create your own fashion blog

Hey Lovers,

You asked for it so here it is!

Today i’m going to give you some of my absolute key tips to creating a fashion blog, that you probably haven’t heard before!!

TIP # 1

Pinterest– To begin any fashion blog you need a pinterest account, this site assists with ideas, inspo, advice and is a super easy way to draw traffic to your blog!

TIP # 2

Creative Market– I’ve said it once and i’ll say it again, this site is AMAZING!! Creative market allows for you to customise and create a unique website that has the ability to stand out from the rest. With reasonably priced themes and options it’s a great investment for serious bloggers.

TIP #3

Domain Security – Okay so this one you might know, it is super important to secure your domain guys! Across absolutely every platform whether you use it or not you have to secure them!! Please, please make sure they are owned by you. WordPress users this also means making sure you are a wordpress.org account.

TIP #4

Photos – now, what would a fashion blog be without photos?! Make sure you’re page is well light and stimulating to your readers. Making content that is visually pleasing is such a huge part of the job!

Now that’s all for now, I hope you got a few tips from me today lovers that have inspired you just a little more!

All my love,

Aesthetically Basic – A millennial’s guide for millennials

How to find your blogging community

Hi Lovers,

I’m back again with some blogging advice.

To start off, NO I’m not your blogger with a 100,000 strong following but hey i’m someone that loves what they do, just like you! So here are some tips on what I have discovered about blogging.

I can’t tell you how many hours I have spent reading, commenting and trying to understand blogging….. alot of which just plain and simple does not work.

To find what really clicks with readers (no pun intended), is you need to give a variety of options. I will write blogs on travel, advice, fashion, life experiences and even came up with a series have called ‘ Basically Abroad’ which talks about my travel stories. I have found the blog posts that gain the most traffic are those that discuss blogging advice and those involving travel. After learning this I have made sure I allocate at least one or two posts on these topics a week. This really has helped me!

Another learning curve I had, And I know you won’t all like this… Is investing in your blog.

By this, I mean allowing yourself to commit in the way of presenting a professional website. I bought my theme off Creativemarket.com. On this site there are some very cheap and worthwhile themes, many of these are specifically made to adapt to mobile devices! Buying a theme has absolutely made me more committed, ait has also helped me to stand out from the crowd and really personalise my blog.

I have seen an 80% growth in my blog’s traffic since changing my theme, it also enables widgets which help increase traffic, clicks and encourages things such as subscriptions. I hope this helped lovers

(Let me know your tips and tricks too!!)

All my love,

Aesthetically Basic

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