2020- Clearing the Vision

Bet you didn’t expect to hear from me.

Well happy 2020,

I hope this time apart has brought you as much clarity as it did for me.

I owe an explanation to you all, the kindest of souls! My heart was full with the amount of you whom felt the need to reach out through email and DM.

The darkness that began to enter into my once happy blog began to feel almost suffocating. My world was no longer positive, blogging began to feel like a chore. For hours I would brainstorm different strategies of how to hold onto the increasing attention my blog and Pinterest account was receiving.

It consumed and scared me.

One day I just stopped.

I felt a level of disappointment in myself for becoming so consumed by numbers, I needed time to remember why I began my account.

I’m done looking at the viewership, likes and comments.

I’m here for you…. and well me too!

This little blog started as a way to track my personal progress and to document all my thoughts as well as to read yours.

Forgive the lack of working widgets on my blog currently, it’s going to take some time to get back to full working order. Don’t be alarmed if there are a few tweaks to my page too!

If you want to have a looksy at my instagram the link is the big logo icon at the bottom of the page!

All my love,

Aesthetically Basic

My truth – Talking about my eating disorder

Hey Lovers,

Today I want to be honest with you. 

I struggle, I have and in a small way always will struggle with an eating disorder. 

When I was 16 years old, a really popular guy asked me out, and I said no. He then whispered something to a friend who looked at me and laughed. I didn’t know what he said, but as a defence responded with “I heard that”. As I was leaving school a girl stopped me in front of the whole school, she yelled “he says sorry for calling you a fat c… !” I was horrified, embarrassed and within seconds my life changed.

That one sentence changed my life, I never thought someone could impact me in the way it did. I’m pretty strong. I don’t take any crap, but some how this struck me at the heart of my being.

From that day onwards, I instantly stopped eating. I would allow myself 2 nibbles of a snack bar a day. This meaning I had to be very strategic as to when I would have them. I only did this to stop my stomach rowling in class, I also drank a ridiculous amount of water in an attempt to keep myself full.

Dinner time was the worst time of the day, I’d dread the thought of having to sit with my family, I could feel them watching me and tracking how much I ate.

I started throwing out things from the cupboard when I got to school as I knew my mum was tracking all foods. I was so calculated I could have worked for the FBI. I knew what they were thinking, I could even see them count how many peas I ate. It was awful. I made my mum cry every day. nothing is worse than knowing you’re the reason someone is hurting so badly, but being able to stop yourself.

The following year showed a drastic change in my appearance, I lost 30kg and went on a full rampage anytime someone brought up my lack of eating. I didn’t eat recess or lunch once in my 3 years at my senior high school. Even my friends can recall never seeing me eat. My secret highlight of graduating high school was knowing no one would know what I was eating in a day.

I couldn’t stay awake, I couldn’t remember things. I started to realise something was really wrong. I went to the doctor and although he asked if my eating habits had changed, I continued to lie. I was diagnosed with hypothyroidism- I was a staggering 40 years under the average age of diagnosis. It was brought on by my lack of eating. This condition is permanent, I’ll have it for the rest of my life.

My ex actually was the one who stopped me. He let me down and was so toxic in many ways, but actually saved me on this important one. I guess I’ll always be grateful for that.

He sat me down one day and said to me; “I love you more than life itself but won’t watch you waste yours. You need to get better or I’ll have to leave, I can’t watch the person I love disappear”

Although we didn’t work out (and for the best!!) I will always appreciate that. 

I am in no way okay, over it, and truthfully I think about my weight at all hours of the day, every day.  But I eat. I eat every meal and eat junk food too. I push it to the back of my mind most times and by the way I am a very normal size.

I guess my message is, don’t let anyone have an effect on you through words. Words mean nothing unless you give them the power to. I now have a life long condition that started prematurely, purely because of the words of some random guy in high school. A guy who was mad because I rejected him.

Be kind to yourself and one another 

All my love,

Aesthetically Basic – A millennial’s guide to life 


Three things that seriously increased traffic to my blog

Hey Lovers,

Happy Monday! (yuck!)

As we get back into the working week, I thought today I would share three things that help to increase the level of traffic my blog received!

Don’t forget to subscribe to my blog to never miss a post, follow my social accounts and as always leave comments below so we can interact and I can check out your blogs too!! ( I love a little blog stalk!)

# 1

So the first thing that hugely impacted my traffic was learning and focusing on SEO. This means Search engine optimisation. Basically, in simple terms this means how easy it is for my blog to be found on the internet. By making sure i’m writing about popular trending topics and using specific key words I increase my chances of being found. (Tagging helps too!)

#2

It may seem silly, and obvious but creating an instagram for my blog has had a giant impact on my blog growing. It acts as a taste tester for readers to understand what my blog is about, in a visual way. i’ve seen alot of people travel over from the link in my accounts bio to come see the full thing. (@aestheticallybasicblog)

#3

Lastly, the best thing I did for my traffic growth was linking my articles to Pinterest! I have had as many as 1.7K followers come view my blog, after seeing one post on Pinterest – CRAZY! So I absolutely recommend doing the same!

All my love,

Aesthetically Basic – A millennial’s guide to life

How to style by Pinterest

Hi Lovers,

Today i’m letting you in on my style plan.

Every season I sit down, get out my phone, and do the same thing to ensure I can remain fashionable all season long.

Pinterest my loves is key!!

Start by creating a board and giving the board a title – I usually just write the season and the year…. creative I know!

From here I jump onto the browse page and look at all the different trends that are up! Living in Australia, we generally get everything six months after the U.S and U.k! So by going on Pinterest, I get to pretty much see a preview of what will be coming to stores in a few months.

From here, once my board has a reasonable amount of pictures I’ll jump on sites such as ‘Missguided’, ‘Top-Shop’ etc and start buying their on sale items that are dupes for those I have on my Pinterest board! – They’re on sale as they are at the end of the season overseas.

Obviously, this can be reversed for those of you, not in Australia! So wanting swimwear for Summer or a summer dresses? Jump onto some aussie websites for some real steals. Eng ‘Princess Polly’ and ‘Showpo’

Let me know what you’re Pinterest are so I can give it a look!

All my love,

Aesthetically Basic

Don’t forget to click the Pinterest icon on the homepage to see my own account and outfits!!

How to find your blogging community

Hi Lovers,

I’m back again with some blogging advice.

To start off, NO I’m not your blogger with a 100,000 strong following but hey i’m someone that loves what they do, just like you! So here are some tips on what I have discovered about blogging.

I can’t tell you how many hours I have spent reading, commenting and trying to understand blogging….. alot of which just plain and simple does not work.

To find what really clicks with readers (no pun intended), is you need to give a variety of options. I will write blogs on travel, advice, fashion, life experiences and even came up with a series have called ‘ Basically Abroad’ which talks about my travel stories. I have found the blog posts that gain the most traffic are those that discuss blogging advice and those involving travel. After learning this I have made sure I allocate at least one or two posts on these topics a week. This really has helped me!

Another learning curve I had, And I know you won’t all like this… Is investing in your blog.

By this, I mean allowing yourself to commit in the way of presenting a professional website. I bought my theme off Creativemarket.com. On this site there are some very cheap and worthwhile themes, many of these are specifically made to adapt to mobile devices! Buying a theme has absolutely made me more committed, ait has also helped me to stand out from the crowd and really personalise my blog.

I have seen an 80% growth in my blog’s traffic since changing my theme, it also enables widgets which help increase traffic, clicks and encourages things such as subscriptions. I hope this helped lovers

(Let me know your tips and tricks too!!)

All my love,

Aesthetically Basic

Beauty – Faking it is okay… Okay?

Hey Lovers,

Today I want to address something.

NoW I totally understand things like botched and how extreme, that those people are fighting something alot stronger than their looks. But also that it’s okay because they choose that and it makes them happy. I find in this world of Instagram and ‘selfies’ we all feel pressure to conform and the idea of beauty is always changing.

10 years ago, ‘THIC‘ wasn’t as appealing as it is now, and my big bum wasn’t on show but rather hidden. The phrase “Does my bum look big in this?” being the most common one while shopping. Things change, nothing is permanent!

I am a self-confessed fake tanner, I tan because it makes me feel more confident. I find daily, people approaching me telling me I should stop. I’m always asked if my skin colour is real etc and the list goes on.

I felt the need this morning after yet another person saying this, to come on here and say it’s OKAY! How do we live in a world of Instagram, Facetune and people are being shunned for fake tanning?

I’m here to tell you, YOU do YOU! Want fake lashes? – Go get them and have some bomb ass eyes! You want to fake tan? – Well God damn you look like a summer Goddess hun. Whatever it is, be you and love it.

I’m sick of being picked on for liking myself, and I may have fake lashes, fake tan and try every instagram ad under the sun but my personality is as real as can be.

Be your beautiful self girls and boys and don’t change for anyone,

All my love,

Aesthetically Basic

3 Break- Up rules to follow for a speedy recovery

Hey Lovers,

Now damn I’m sorry I know it must suck right now, trust me i’ve been there but hey I’m about to speed this up for you.

RULE #1 : Keep Busy

It may seem simple but honestly the more you leave your room, house or blanket cocoon the better. Being outside, it keeps you busy and naturally you are distracted. It really helped me, I kept my days full and by the time I got to bed at night I just crashed.

RULE #2: Take up a new hobby

It may sound silly, but putting a new passion in your life honestly feels like changing the batteries. You’re a new person!

Many of us become consumed in relationships, the other person is an extension of us. So when they aren’t there we become lost. So by giving yourself a new layer you start to feel yourself again. This new hobby could be as simple as going to the beach or gym, or as crazy as skydiving – you decide.

RULE #3 Delete and Forget

now I know this is a hard one, but it’s also the most important.

If you are done and I mean done. Delete and forget. You and I both know you’re gonna stalk the insta, facebook and Snap, so stop yourself. Delete them and block them! That includes their number – Let’s not give you the option to send that message you’re wanting to and wishing to receive. A good piece of advice to remember is, if you’ve had to go on a break it isn’t right. If someone needs/wants a break from you they are your person.

Okay my loves,

Remember I’m only a click away,

All my love,

Aesthetically Basic

The three savage things you need to hear to be a Bad Bitch in 2019

Hey Boo,

Yep I’m talking to you!

2019 is a fresh start and we may be 22 days in but hun we are here for the long hall! To take 2019 and make it your side piece, listen up because you my darling are going to own this year!

1.Prep where you can – Okay so yes YOLO and ‘Live, Laugh, Love’ as much as you want but to rule you gotta be on your game and the only way to do that is organisation! Sit down with your coffee and decided what you want… what you really want. Writing something down makes more likely you’ll do it. I myself did this and I’ll tell you what, it worked.. I’m making moves ya’ll.

2.Time is precious- 2019 is the year of ‘It’s all about me k?” So Hun don’t text him back, be like Ari and buy ya friend a damn ring and live your best life. Life is too short to be putting your time into anyone not doing so in return. Think about the amazing person who is waiting for you to be done with that loser. Life advice- Someone who makes you cy more than laugh has gotta go! Please keep in mind this applies to anyone even friends.

3.Breath- Life is hard but so are you, remember that. Take time to stop, breath and know everything is temporary. Nothing lasts, if life’s a bit shit know it’s not forever. In our current world life moves fast so take time to stop it, have a coffee and do nothing, go to the beach late at night and watch the water, just stop.. when you do it’s beautiful.

Have a wonderful 2019, I can’t wait to hear how amazing you make it

All my love,

Aesthetically Basic

2019 Rundown

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Hello Lovers,

How are we liking the new set up? My goal was to step it up for the new year! I know it’s way better on desktop so if that’s an option go for that!

Sadly, I’m back in the stifling heat of Australia rather than the brisk weather of my beloved U.K. But all good things must come to an end so time to get back out in the sun hey? Lets get that tanning oil out and bake.

A trip I’ll always remember, full of first experiences, new cultures, rebellious adventures and family. Keeping in mind my multiple sick days that at times left me bedridden but in whole was imperfectly perfect. We did actually video parts of the trip so fingers crossed when that is edited I’ll post it on here in case you’re interested.

2019 – What’s in store!

I have decided to tell a few funny stories from my travels in a series I’m calling an ‘Basically Abroad’  for that stay tuned!

 In other news I’ll also be posting some of my best tips and tricks from keeping panic attacks under control to my low calorie diet plans, even how to keep your space at home aesthetically basic!

They’ll be lots of fresh, new and frequent posts coming your way so don’t forget to subscribe to the mailing lists to be the first to read it all!

All my love,

Aesthetically Basic

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